Correction: I have been thinking about this topic for a long time, at least six years, but today I write down my ideas with care. This is just my personal observation, not validated. I also know that what I observe is not representative of all young people who have been trained in the specialized school – select class. I hope you, your teachers, friends, and your juniors have been, are, and will be working or studying in specialized schools – the class DOES NOT have the feeling I am attacking or criticizing them if they happen to read. this lesson. I write this article with the expectation that my juniors, who have similar problems in this article, will learn how to keep their strengths and overcome the weaknesses that the specialized school system of choice bring them.
About six years ago, during a meeting with a student’s family, the father shared with me the importance of having a young person always in the top 5% of any where he was. Include extra classes at the center. He explained to me that it was the path to success in society based on his own experience and so many others. At the same meeting, he told me that he was disappointed when his older son did not meet that standard. I have always been in regular classes, regular school, and not as bright as when I was young. The father came to me with worry that his son would not get a good job after graduation.
I have a lot of friends working in the education system in Vietnam; Even if they do not like the long hours they spend in school and out of school, the fatigue of lack of time to rest and play to balance the life of puberty, They decided to encourage and even push their children to earn points at provincial or city specialized schools. They told me that it was still the best way to lead to more successful career opportunities.
I did not argue with his father, nor did he respect my friends’ decisions. But in me still painful question from that day, ‘Selective school – really good for all young people?’ At that time I did not have enough information and knowledge to answer my concerns. It was not until the last six months that I decided that ‘selective colleges really did benefit those who fit into that competitive environment. But for some young people, this system also has quite negative consequences for the advantage. I think, as well as other career decisions, young people and parents should carefully study whether the selective college is right for them before deciding to study.
During over 9 years working in vocational counseling in Vietnam, almost 90% of the cases are INCREDIBLE. They are having a hard time deciding on a career, changing a discipline, and then choosing an internship, choosing a company, changing jobs, etc. The common feature I often see in them is, ‘They compare yourself all the time, everywhere, with everyone. ‘ This leads to the fact that although they are very good at doing things, they always fear that they are not good enough, not good enough, why not with this person, why is it worse than others, etc. and etc.
The problem they faced was not purely a career issue, but rather a psychological problem of lack of self-confidence, about being unhappy about themselves, about the misconduct of the project. With constant fear of possible failures, they eventually result in them being frozen in their own panic.
When accompanying them, I used to take a picture of a cyclist on a steep hill whose hands were constantly squeezed. I visualize their abilities, skills, and preferences with action biking. Similarly, I use the image of successive victories to illustrate the constant fear within them. And many times, they burst into tears in front of me.
They told me about the long struggle with books, sadness when friends in the neighborhood go out while they hardly study. They told me about the fear of recruiting excellent students to participate in school, provincial, national and international competitions; They are afraid of not being picked up, and when they are chosen to be afraid of not having high beans,
Throughout their lives, they have always been the higher peaks they have to overcome. The motivation to overcome is not your own pleasure or choice – it is the fear of ridicule, judgment, or even contempt for not being able to overcome it.
When they realize the core of the problem, they recognize their accomplishments, albeit small. They practice with themselves that they are good enough, good enough. They continue to learn to progress than themselves six months ago rather than the ‘famous’ in the next room. This journey was not easy, but as they began to realize, they found their own way in peace.
At that time, all the advantages of high school – selective education were maximized. Their social networks are strong – because classmates are like them, selected from the best students in the area. Their ability to learn by themselves is very high thanks to the habit of burying their heads in books for years. Their specialized knowledge is strong because they are forged by talented teachers, experienced as well as national and international competitions. Their motivation is strong because they are used to conquering the highs ahead, not content with what has been achieved.
For those of you who have been studying in a selective school that have similar problems in this article, I would like to share with you that, ‘Replace yourself with others as you did yesterday. Take a look at these competitions and challenges as part of your school journey. Win or lose the biggest benefit is the friction and learning in the process. The result is not as important as the process – who you meet, what you do, how you react to stress, understand yourself and how you understand, is more important than the last. ”
Most importantly, I expect them to understand, ‘Do not let anyone convince you that they are not good enough – because they are good enough.’